I am stricken with despondency. Why do people continue to have children they they care nothing about?
Lately there have been an abundance of cases of child abuse, rape and murder. All of these little blessing being-mistreated because of the selfish behavior of young, inexperienced adults. How many more children have to die?
It is difficult enough for me to understand when God calls an infant or child home before they have yet shed their child hood skin, but these senseless murders are far more bewildering and saddening.
I look at my son and know the pain I feel when his lip starts to quiver and his tears begin to fall and couldn't imagine doing anything but comforting him.
My heart is heavy, cheerless and stricken with grief.
RIP little children.
Links below to news stories.
bronx_mothers_punch_killed_tot_cops.html
Mother kills and buried.boy/
Father murders son over child support money
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Time to give up the boob.

I do realize that breastfeeding has an overabundance of advantages. It protects your baby from gastrointestinal trouble, respiratory problems, ear infections and can prevent them from developing allergies.
However, at what age should one decide to ween their child from the breast? 12 months? 18 months? My opinion 1 year, but I am not a breastfeeding mother.
Many say the child decides....well in this case the mother took that literally. Her daughter is 8 years old and still breastfeeds regularly....yes I said 8 years old.
I believe at some point it gets to be in a way "perverted" But that may just be my "American" mind, since we are one of the few countries that associates the female breast with sexuality.
I am all about attachment parenting and encourage parents to bond with their children in whatever fashion they deem adequate, but in my personal opinion this is distasteful and a bit damaging.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxv6R9fUO74&feature=player_embedded
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
I am NOT my hair

What is it about having short hair that invigorates me?
It's as if when I cut my hair off a weight lifts off of my shoulders, it is so much more than the superficiality of the outward manifestation. In that respect it is nearly depthless, my thirst for external acceptance is long gone. It has now become about loving me. My excitement can hardly be contained.
Black women have always had a “hair dilemma”, myself included, which I highly attribute to black men. Too often short hair has been arbitrarily linked to lesbianism of unattractiveness. I understand that we live in a pretentious country but to the effect that something as trivial as the hair on your head can decide your relationship fate or career fate is a bit nonsensical.
Perms, dyes, braids, weave, and whatever unnecessary added elements give us security that we should already own with our natural hair. I often hear women say “I can’t go natural”----How can you NOT go back to your natural state? It is after all the state you were born with. Why is it not good enough for you?
We don’t want “nappy” hair….nappy is a state of mind, if you want to be nappy you will if you don’t want to be nappy you won’t, it is as simple as that. We give the external far too much power. If your confidence shines from the outside then that is all anyone will see. They will only see your insecurities if you let them.
I have seen many black women going natural these days and it makes me proud. It is about so much more than hair, it is about breaking the chains of insecurity and accepting that you are not defined by your hair, clothes or any other cosmetic curses.
If you are thinking of going natural this site helped me tremendously.
http://www.nappturality.com/
If you are thinking of going natural this site helped me tremendously.
http://www.nappturality.com/
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Rape in the Congo

I watched a documentary (the Greatest Silence) about the effects of the war in the D.R. Congo (Zaire).
The disgruntled soldiers have now turned their rage on unsuspecting women. At any time women ranging in age from 2 years old to 85 years old are being raped in the forests of the Congo, or even in their own homes.
Their husbands are brutally murdered then they proceed to rape the women or children. Sometimes up to 20 men at a time will rape one woman or child often destroying her bladder and reproductive organs.
They then take sticks, branches and the ends of their rifles and shove them in their vaginas, ripping through their uterus and rectums.
Almost 30% contract AIDS
Nearly each one of them, if they survive will have issues urinating for the rest of their lives.
Sexual violence is Taboo in the Congo so if a women has been raped she is rejected by her family and husband and must flee to the jungle to live out the rest of her days in shame.
I cried watching it and had nightmares last night and the night before. As a rape survivor I can sympathize with them in a way.
They have to live in constant fear of their lives and most of them are forever mentally and physically traumatized by these experiences.
I wanted to share this. It makes me grateful for the life I have, even though it is far from perfect.
http://www.womenforwomen.org/global-initiatives-helping-women/help-women-congo.php
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