I am NOT my hair

What is it about having short hair that invigorates me?

It's as if when I cut my hair off a weight lifts off of my shoulders, it is so much more than the superficiality of the outward manifestation. In that respect it is nearly depthless, my thirst for external acceptance is long gone. It has now become about loving me. My excitement can hardly be contained.

Black women have always had a “hair dilemma”, myself included, which I highly attribute to black men. Too often short hair has been arbitrarily linked to lesbianism of unattractiveness. I understand that we live in a pretentious country but to the effect that something as trivial as the hair on your head can decide your relationship fate or career fate is a bit nonsensical.

Perms, dyes, braids, weave, and whatever unnecessary added elements give us security that we should already own with our natural hair. I often hear women say “I can’t go natural”----How can you NOT go back to your natural state? It is after all the state you were born with. Why is it not good enough for you?

We don’t want “nappy” hair….nappy is a state of mind, if you want to be nappy you will if you don’t want to be nappy you won’t, it is as simple as that. We give the external far too much power. If your confidence shines from the outside then that is all anyone will see. They will only see your insecurities if you let them.

I have seen many black women going natural these days and it makes me proud. It is about so much more than hair, it is about breaking the chains of insecurity and accepting that you are not defined by your hair, clothes or any other cosmetic curses.



If you are thinking of going natural this site helped me tremendously.
http://www.nappturality.com/