Relationship Forgiveness---No easy feat

There are so many emotions and circumstances to evaluate. Many tough choices to make especially when you're emotionally in disdain and you can be angry, you can be hurt, it's "normal" and it's healthy.

But I realized that if you hold on to anger towards a person then it evolves into bitterness and it only hurts you in the long run. That person is long gone and into the next relationship and you are still angry....it isn't a good feeling.

So choose to forgive and let go of the anger.

I think that all too often we are quick to say what we would do, when in reality our hearts may be broken but with time and a lot of effort can be repaired and although that person hurt us, the love for them doesn't just dissipate into thin air. EVERYONE deserves forgiveness. If not for them, then do it for yourself so you don't evolve into a cold-hearted, bitter person. After all, we would expect forgiveness and a second chance if we made a mistake.

People give up far too easily in relationships/marriages. Sometimes we have to set our pride aside and forgive them and give it another shot. I am not saying let this person disrespect you , and if they aren't remorseful, be my guest and walk away, but if they are truly sorry and seeking your forgiveness, give it to them. It will make you feel better in the long run.

Sometimes they just need a little guidance and if you could be the one to guide them back instead of being belittling and judgmental the you're the better person for it. :)

Love is a complex emotion with no easy way out...

Peace For Haiti

Sweet swallows sing, I dream freely amongst the trees, rivers run wild. Butterflies land on my fingertips and promise peace will come. I have hope for the country of Haiti. I pray peace into the hearts of every person who is suffering now. I pray for the tranquility of the parents of the sweet souls of children who now sit with Jesus in the glorious hills of heaven.


My heart is heavy today for the people of Haiti.

Average Black Person

My twitter friend from Chicago linked this to me and I found it intriguing. Thought I'd share.

Thanks Amber

Average Black Person

Atlanta Trip & New Body Art.

Helloooo again! Life has been super busy! Last weekend a few friends & I took a short trip to Atlanta to have a little fun before school started back for the spring. We shopped a bit & ate a alot! LOL. We visited the Georgia Aquarium, which was fantastic! I really needed this weekend getaway, but I did miss my little guy.

Breakfast at J. Christophers

Dinner @ Twist

Breakfast @ Thumbs Up!

Dinner @ The Atlanta Fish Market before my tattoo appointment.

I made an appointment with Miya Bailey of City of Ink tattoo shop in Atlanta. I had researched his art work and really loved the vibrant colors he used on a lot of his pieces.

I am so pleased with my piece, it is healing beautifully and I have been getting a lot of positive feedback on it. 

My Afrocentric Centaur

Atlanta is wonderful. I would love to move there. Maybe one day....

Six Word Story

Closed Mouth, Opened Mind, Dream Freely.

Six Word Stories

Everyday I will try to do at least ONE six word story. Which is essentially a compelling story composed of only 6 words.

http://www.sixwordstories.net/

Todays six word story:

"A common Enemy, Unites old foes."

Freeze Warning, Bologna baby

Good morning on this cold January day! It's Friday so that means ol' massa let me off work today! ::Happy face:: & ::tap dance::

The weather in Louisiana is brisk and colder than usual. The temperature for Southeastern Louisiana is about 26 degrees but with the wind it feels like 14 degrees. By the news and the way people were acting you'd think we had a blizzard or snow storm. Schools and bridges are closed and even some places of employment are shut down...all of this "precaution" is a bit ridiculous for just a little bit of cold. I remember having to bundle up and shovel several feet of snow when I lived in Ohio. Pffftttt.

My son, Gavin, is on a food strike. Since right before his 2nd birthday he has now started to only eat bologna, which is fine if he would also eat anything else, but he wont. This morning I fixed French toast, which got tossed on the floor, and the pancakes and sausages I made are sitting quietly ignored on the stove. ::sigh:: 1st food strike next sleep strike, this is going to be a long year. ::smile::

I pray you all a blessed day and productive day.

Blyss Music --Emotions - Destiny's Child acapella cover <3

I don't wander the halls of YouTube too often unless I am linked to something interesting. Someone on Baby Gaga posted a thread mentioning this group and I think they sound fantastic.

Check them out.

No Homo?

 There is a slue of verbal phrases that come & go in the young community, some are comical, but for the most part they're all absurd and wouldn't be caught coming from my lips.  One however, is so ridiculous and offensive, every time I see it I want to gouge my eyes out.

In an effort to ensure that everyone around you knows that you're NOT a homosexual, before or after you pay someone of the same sex a compliment you have to say "No Homo,"  which in my opinion only affirms your sexual insecurity.  Seriously? That is ridiculous.  Not to mention, a huge insult to the homosexual community. The comment insinuates that homosexuality is some sort of contagious disease that you can catch. It wouldn't at all surprise me if some folks believed that. The ignorance is astounding.

From what I hear the term originated from the rap community (no surprise there) ::eye roll:: Why is there so much negativity radiating from the rap community? Furthermore why are there so many people blindly following these trends? Someone even told me they heard a gay person say "no homo" ::sideways look::

I am beyond appalled at this "new" verbal epidemic. If you haven't heard it, consider yourself lucky. I swear my generation never ceases to disappoint me.

Happy Birthday Gavin, Love Mommy

It's hard to look back and see how swiftly time passes us by. On this day 2 years ago I gave birth to this tiny (well not so tiny 8lbs 14oz) miracle we named Gavin. He was small and helpless and perfect. Now, 2 years later he is still pretty small but definitely more independent, self-sufficient and absolutely still perfect (in my eyes anyway) Sometimes we have our toddler battles like when he rather watch an episode of Yo Gabba Gabba for the 40th time than eat his breakfast, but those are minor hurdles that I brush off in favor of whatever makes him happy.

No one ever tells you that parenting is the hardest job you'll ever have.You will often hear a new parent say that it is the best thing that has ever happened to them, I cannot attest enough to how true this statement is. You will never in your entire life as long or short as God allows you to dwell on his green earth feel a greater sense of love than you do for the human being that you give life to.  However, along with the unconditional love and sympathy you acquire comes a serious sense of overwhelming fear. For now you have a human life that depends solely on you for their well being. But the reward is ever so great. 

My sweet baby is 2. Boy, how time flies. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world my dear Gavin, I'd sacrifice my life for yours in a heartbeat and I'll do my very best to ensure you have the skills and lessons to lead the best life possible. 

Mommy.

So, it's a New Year

I'm not sure what this new year will bring, I am semi-sympathetic, I suppose it's because nothing went as I had planned last year, maybe that's my fault. They say if you want to hear God laugh tell him what you have planned. ::sigh::  He is probably laughing out loud at me.

I didn't make any resolutions, I don't believe in them. Anything that I could start on January first I could have started 2-3 weeks months ago if I really wanted to make a change. I actually get a quiet little chuckle out of all of those who make resolutions to quit smoking or to lose weight...lol. I am curious about how many people (statistically) stay committed to these tricks of the mind. We shall see.

It's amazing how refreshing and redundant a new year is though. New aspirations, hopes and dreams that come along with old debt and problems that slyly followed you in from the last year. As soon as I open up my new savings account in hopes to save a little change, that bitch Sallie Mae emails me to kindly remind me that I owe her $30K. At least I get comfort from her constant consistency. I know she'll always be there for me, I can always count on her emails and phone calls if I can't count on anyone else. Yep, Mrs. Me and I will be sure friends for years to come.

With that said I pray you find comfort in this new year, may you find peace and prosperity and a wealth of new knowledge that overflows and may all your debt collectors catch crabs and their arms be too short to scratch.

Welcome 2010.

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